This past month has been tough. I put off going to social services as long as I could. That isn’t who I am……..was. This past Sunday my son got a concussion in his hockey game and we spent the whole day in the er. Any self esteem that I had left is officially gone. I never was someone who went to Dr’s without insurance. I had no choice. I never in a million years thought I would be a parent who can not take care of her child. That is how I feel now. Yes we struggled since this began but I never thought I’d need State assistance. I do not want it!
Why? I keep asking myself why? I just don’t understand how anyone can’t realize these are people lives they are playing with. I know it is all about “a win”. I am so sick and tired of hearing of people who can’t defend themselves be taken advantage of. They knew darn well that my husband was not receiving proper representation. How could they not? They could care less as long as we were all punished. For what? Where/when does it stop? He had a good job. We had insurance. We could pay our bills, mostly on time. We were about to get our lives on track. We were looking forward to putting this nightmare behind us. Instead we get 2.5 years. More than just us are still paying for this. The bank, his employer, the bills that now I have no way of paying. Sure it would have been an uphill battle. Now all of that went out the window. I am losing everything especially my husband and father of my children. I need state assistance and He is using state money to incarcerate him. In what world does this make sense? They say this is about the money. They have no problem wasting even more money. Delaying repayment of restitution. Taking someone who was paying taxes and contributing to society and making him become part of the economic problem.
They took accusations as fact because they didn’t have the knowledge to understand what actually happened. They didn’t care what happened. They didn’t care he didn’t have proper representation! They must have been ecstatic to roll all over him. Seems to me that the ones who are accused and can’t afford a proper defense are paying unfairly. All while the ones who actually changed contracts get away with a slap on the wrist. Why? Large corporations who have teams of attorneys to fight would give them a negative win loss ratio. That is what it is all about! Wins and losses! In this case it wouldn’t take much to fight because there was nothing much there. Certainly not anything that deserved this time.
Go for the little guy! Get that win! Congratulations! How does no one see what is happening? They are no different than the bully we all knew in school. They grew up and continue to bully. Abuse of power is disgusting. The whole system is warped. It is a game to them. It is destruction of a family to me.
So many stresses lately that I am unable to handle. Brian’s blog hit home. It is infuriating. I must be getting used to the insanity of prison in my life. My husband has been a mess as well especially worrying about our son. He kept saying he should be there in the hospital with us and he should of been. He says no one there understands why he is so concerned about all of us. He never missed a first day of school drop off or a hockey game/practice. Our sons hockey schedule coincides with the visiting schedule and this makes it more difficult for Us. Our son is going on a month without seeing him. I hope to visit him Saturday on our daughters 20th birthday. What fun that will be for her. She loves her dad so it will be okay. I keep catching myself saying,” how is this my life”. It is!
I drove up to MA to say my goodbyes to a dear high school friend. It should have made me thankful that we are all healthy, for the most part. I am but it took a while to get there. Everything should be in perspective but it isn’t.
Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div, Minister/Director
Lynn Springer, Advocate, Innocent Spouses & Children
George Bresnan, Advocate, Ex-Pats
Michael Karaffa, Advocate, Disabilities
Comments from Social Media:
I know how you feel. I too suffered from the embarrassment of no insurance after a lifetime of having insurance. After I was released from prison, I was not eligible for Medicare Insurance (due to an enrollment technicality) and had to wait almost one year before being covered. Unfortunately I got sick and had to go to the emergency room for treatment. There I met doctors who I knew previously and had to admit that I had no insurance. At 72 years old, I had to go to a clinic and ask for a doctor to give me a prescription for my medicines. I then had to locate a pharmacy that would fill my prescriptions for a fair cash price. I felt awful as I signed a form that said I had no insurance and was being allowed a discounted price to help indigent people. I use to be the person who contributed to charities to help people with problems and now I was the one with problems. Life is hard enough in prison and then out of prison. Why keep making it hard and embarrassing for people who have served their time and their families left behind. We are fathers, mothers, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters, sons, daughters. JUST LIKE YOU!!!. Give us a break every once in a while. The Mark of Cain seems to follow prisoners and their families. You are not allowed to harm them but you can shun them and shun them society does. – Barry S. Diamond